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Auschwitz
survivor
Clinical psychologist
contributor to Chicken Soup
www.dredie.com
World-renowned psychologist and motivational speaker Edith Eger
recently returned from celebrating her son-in-law Robert Engle's
2003 Novel Prize for Economics. "This, too," she smiles
triumphantly, "is posthumous revenge against Hitler."
It was 59 years ago this month that among a huge pile of corpses,
a small hand moved slightly from beneath the rotting carnage.
A U.S. soldier investigated and discovered the hand was attached
to the 40-pound unconscious body of a teenager. Barely 17 years
old, this tortured daughter of murdered parents was transferred
to a hospital in Czechoslovakia. There she was treated for a broken
back and other injuries - and fell in love with a Czech freedom
fighter hospitalized for tuberculosis. While she was still in
a cast, new life was conceived. Doctors advised her to terminate
the pregnancy. "They told me I was too weak to ever carry
a child," she recalls. But after spending a year surrounded
by death, the life force rose triumphant from the ashes. In 1947,
Marianne was born. Today, Marianne Engle is a prominent psychologist
and a professor at New York University who dined in Stockholm
last December with the Swedish Royal Family at the Novel Laureate
Banquet.
The ballet and gymnastic lessons Edith Eger began at age four
became her ticket to survival. Upon arrival in Auschwitz on the
same transport as Elie Wiesel, Dr. Mengele immediately sent her
parents to the gas chambers. He kept their daughter barely alive
as a subject for his notorious medical experiments - and for his
own amusement. She had trained to be a concert ballerina. Rather
than performing in grand halls throughout Europe as she had once
dreamed, the emaciated teenager from Kassa, Hungary, instead performed
pirouettes and cartwheels to entertain Mengele and his murderous
minions.
Although the Nazis decimated her family and physically broke
her back, Edith Eger left Europe penniless - too proud to apply
for reparation funds from the German government - but otherwise
intact. When she, her husband and 2-year-old Marianne arrived
in New York, they lived in the Bronx with an aunt who warned them
not to mention the Holocaust. In those days, having been in a
concentration camp was a badge of shame. When they moved to Baltimore
where her sister was living, Edith did piecework in a factory.
There she deliberately used the "Colored" bathroom.
Eventually, the Eger family (another daughter and son were born
in the U.S.) moved to Texas where Edith's formal education resulted
in a doctorate degree in psychology while her husband became a
C.P.A.
Twice-widowed, Eger lived in La Jolla where she has an active
psychotherapy practice and a UCSD faculty appointment. She is
a prolific contributor to "Chocolate For Women's Soul"
and "Chicken Soup For the Golden Soul." She accepts
invitations throughout the world as an internationally acclaimed
keynote speaker on "How to Be Transformed By Adversity."
She is schooled in Logotherapy - psychotherapy based on a search
for meaning in life - and was a keynote speaker at the late Logotherapy
found Viktor Frankl's 90th birthday celebration. She has described
as a cross between Doctor Ruth and Joan Rivers. When she works
with children victims of bullies, she likes to be called "Grandma
Edie."
According to Eger's daughter, Marianne Engle, her mother has
always been a women people instinctly trust. "Like a true
survivor, she always takes the best from the past and uses it
to enrich the future," says Engle, who describes her father's
pride when her mother received a standing ovation from top-level
U.S. Army officers she addressed at Eagle's Nest, Hitler's mountaintop
hideaway at Berchtesgarten.
Because she so readily identifies with the underdog, Edith Eger
has devoted her life to freedom fighting. (Freedom from fear,
from anger and from unresolved grief, she says.) Eger marched
with martin Luther King, Jr. in Selma, Alabama, and joined with
Tibetans in a march to free Tibet. In 1985, she was invited to
New Zealand by then Prime Minister David Russell Lange as a keynote
speaker to honor Righteous Gentiles and she ahs spoken to the
families of the victims of the Murrach Building bombing in Oklahoma
City. And of course she's been Oprah's guest. As a resiliency
expert she maintains that Auschwitz was the school that taught
her everything she needed to know about life, about survival.
"There was no Prozac in Auschwitz," she murmurs softly.
It was the guild of surviving the Nazi atrocities, she thinks,
that has driven her to be a high achiever. Why did I survive when
others didn't? There must have been a reason.
Although she was an overachiever professionally, the physic healing
began only when she revisited her old alma mater, Auschwitz. "I
wanted to look for the barracks where I danced for Mengele,"
she says quietly. When she visited the U.S. Holocaust Memorial
Museum in Washington, DC, and recognized her own photo, the internal
healing process advanced. It only took 40 years.
In her mid-70s, the petite blonde grandmother of five fills the
room with her charisma and warmth. Meticulously groomed and coifed,
appearing almost coquettish in bright red pants, gold sandals
and a Versace overblouse with silkscreened Marilyn Monroe and
James Dean images, this gracious doyenne of frequent Sunday morning
brunches fills exquisite vases with fresh calla lilies from her
garden while kielbasa, lox and bagels, omelets, latkes and apricot
brandy beckon. "Eat, children eat!" Eager urges her
middle-aged brunch guests in a charming Hungarian accent. Serene
Juan O'Gorman painting and bronze, porcelain and unidentified
metal figures of ballerinas abound amid a stunning panoramic of
the Pacific. She's concerned, she tells her guests, that her travels
take too much time away from her practice.
A consummate storyteller, her tales end with aphorisms. The goal,
she says, is not to overcome but to come to terms with the 'cherished
wound,' "The biggest concentration camp is in your own mind,"
Eger says softly but with conviction. "Healing is a lifelong
journey."
Since her graduation from the School of Auschwitz in May 1945,
Eger has been on a lifelong inner journey from victim to heroine.
By living her life fully, successfully, passionately and emphatically,
she has turned adversity into advantage and is continually showing
the way for others on the path.
What does Edith Eger want carved on her tombstone. 'I NEVER SAID
IT WAS EASY," she laughs.
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